Supermoms – They Don’t Exist!
Forget about everything you see in magazines and the paper – supermoms don’t exist! Well, they do if you can afford to have a nanny, personal trainer, chef, cleaner, gardener and personal assistant!
Society today places unnecessary pressure on mother’s to conform to the ‘supermom’ image. Pictures of celebrities looking glamorous with their unnaturally fashionable kids in tow are a far cry from normality. The majority of mothers are just happy to get through each day with their sanity in check!
Being a first time mother myself and trying to juggle running the household, setting up a new business and getting involved in internet marketing, I have learned a lot of things:
Time out for myself: for me, it’s a shower and a coffee in the morning (I’m a simple gal!). For you, it may be reading the paper, going for a walk or just having enough time for a nap. But whatever it is, you need time out for yourself to recharge your batteries and restore some sense of normality to your life. Notes, notes and more notes! I now write everything down. I have enough to deal with without having to worry about remembering when the doctor’s appointment is or that I have to call the plumber to fix the sewerage system. I have a phone that syncs with my calendar on my computer so I always know what I have on and what is coming up. A pocket diary works just as well. Sleep – I used to try and get through without having any naps and I end up crashing after about 3 days. Lack of sleep affects not only your mood, but also your judgment and ability to think things through reasonably. Don’t try and skimp on the sleep – if you don’t get enough sleep, everyone suffers! Don’t be afraid to say “no”: no more ‘Mrs Nice Gal’ – you can’t do everything and please everyone. If you want to stay sane and in control of your faculties, you need to learn to say “no”. Get out and about: I can sometimes get so caught up in what I do that I can easily spend 10 hours a day, 7 days a week in front of the computer. But this is definitely not healthy! You need to get out of the house. Whether it be for a walk, dinner or coffee with friends, make an effort to get back out in the world. And make a deal out of it – get dressed up, put on some makeup and heels. You will be amazed how good you feel afterwards.
If you implement just some of the above, it will make a huge difference in coping with motherhood. And at the end of the day if you take care of yourself, you will be a better mother, wife, girlfriend and partner for it.
About the Author
Michelle Chan is a new mother, entrepreneur and wife. Check out her latest website on tips and advice on purchasing maternity bathing suits and plus size maternity swimwear.
