Finding Common Ground With Your Teenagers
You will often hear parents that have little ones refer to the “terrible twos”. Then everything seems to mellow out over the years until they hit the teens and then it is the “terrible teens”. To begin with, one has to realize just how difficult the teen years are on our children. They are going through many body changes both physically mentally and emotionally as well. Many of these changes they do not even recognize and are probably not even aware.
Therefore, it is understandable that teenagers may become somewhat moody and a little bit rebellious. Being aware of what is happening to them is a good thing but you also have to watch for warning signs of more serious events that could be taking place. You must be really tuned in to their patterns at this time and their feelings and above all trying keeping open communication with them.
If you have set the pattern throughout their life to have conversations with them, be concerned about their feelings, and respect them, you are going to find that this carries over into the teenage years as well. That does not mean that you become their best friend and not their parent. By setting the right pattern throughout their life, they will be able to discern between the two.
It is very important at this stage that they have someone that they can talk to that has a place of authority such as a parent. They can relate to their friends but that often does not give them the answers that they need or help in getting them on the right track.
They at the age where they are learning to make their own decisions and you cannot make them for them that but what you can do is you can listen and you can advise and give them your opinion. From that, point on it is up to them to make the decisions. You also need to ensure that they know that they have to be responsible for their decisions. Help them to understand that if they make the wrong one they may have the consequences to deal with.
One cannot expect teenagers to go through their years without making some mistakes. We all made them and are going to make them in the future. One of the things you can teach them is to learn from their mistakes and to be able to identify the potential problems that can come before they make a mistake to begin with.
It is an extremely important time to try to keep them focused and self-confident. Many teenagers go through many problems because they have lost their confidence in themselves and do not feel that they really have the popularity that they should have when it comes to their peers.
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